Just when you think can't get worse

Joe, many many many prayers sent for both your wife and you. Hope things do a turn about for the better. God bless man.
 
Just to update, I have not said much But we have started to make arrangements and calling Hospice back in. She has been move 5 time now back and fourth from the nursing home to the hosp. She is in Hossp now. They have made me the health care proxy as she is not with it. She is so thin and friel that they say if the have to try they are going to hurt her,So I have put the DNR in order today.
She was raching out today, I asked what you reaching for? she says the door, why?? "I am going out" were? I am going with my sister Karen ( she died the week before xmas) as I sat in tears I said its ok to go! She said open the door for me, I said you have to do it your self. She tryed for about 20 min then stopped.
So if I disappear for a bit you will know why, my kids (my son mostly) are taking it very hard!!!! He wants her to stay long enough to see his new son which is due in 2 weeks, Have no idea if its going to happen?? Ok I am :cry::cry::cry: Talk to you soon
 
Joe, I went thru the same thing with my first wife 35+ years ago. (She died of lung cancer) There is nothing I can say except that you have to accept that it's a blessing for them to walk thru that door. Their pain and suffering stops, and really, when all is said and done, isn't that what we wish for our loved ones? That they aren't suffering anymore? That their pain is gone? I know your heartfelt pain only too well, and about the only thing I can say is that it will diminish a little over time. It never really goes completely away, but it will get better. Time is a wonderful healer of both the mind and the heart. I pray for you and I pray for her that you will overcome this tragic event. You are both in my daily prayers. God bless you both. :pray:
 
Destroyer said:
I know your heartfelt pain only too well, and about the only thing I can say is that it will diminish a little over time. It never really goes completely away, but it will get better. Time is a wonderful healer of both the mind and the heart. I pray for you and I pray for her that you will overcome this tragic event.
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i went through this with my parents, both did the "reaching" for loved ones. it was comforting to me because it told me they did not want to be here anymore and wanted to see what was next.

the passing of parents is a natural order, losing a spouse or child is a lot tougher, destroyer's right, once you see she is not suffering, it will help.

do what you can while you can,
 
MJ-
Please know we here in Ohio are thinking of you and praying for you. I'll light a candle for you all at mass in the morning.
God bless,
Ed
 
They called 8:30 AM to say she has become septic, not breathing well, she is on drugs to keep the blood perssure up,, and on the resperator. Doc says they are doing all they can, wait 24 hour to see if she turns around if not thats it. I am now her health care proxy and put the DNR in place. This is what I was trying to avoid just wanted her to go, not left up to us to pull the plug! We will see what tomorrow brings.

Thanks All for all the prays and thoughts!! It means alot!!

Joe
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I feel the reaching is a good thing. Means someone familiar is there to help her across. I lost my Dad unexpectedly. Got a phone call at 7:16 am from a cousin I hadn't spoken to in years. The only good thing is you have a chance to say goodbye, but I'm know it's got to be hell watching her slowly get there. Try and stay strong for your kids, but you'll need to grieve too, do what feels right.

We're here for you.
 
Ok today was a hell of a day!! As a family my kids have broken down and emoations ran wild! Things were said that should have never been said, But in the end we all hugged and went are way.
Doc came in and said that the seatives have been off since yesterday, she is still hooked up to the machines but they are turned off, and she is maintaing her B/P, and breating on her own! But she will not wake up?? and she needs to be awake to pull the tube so she can cough all the crap out. Tomorrow will be 72 hours and she should be awake? they say they see this in mostly older people but she is young. Might be all the brain damage from all the low blood sugars??But the tube will come out tomorrow and if all goes well great! If not the we go into comfort mode which is a morphine drip, and then she won't feel anything and will go to sleep and the pass in her sleep.
So there is another hard day coming tomorrow!! after missing dialysis I have to go tomorrow, even her doctor yelled at me for not going yesterday. So I will go and then drive there so they can do wht needs to be done, my daughter will come down and get me in a wheelchair cause I dont feel well after my treatment never mind mussing a day then going I am sure 8I will be wiped.

Thank You all for your thoughts and prays!!!!!!!!!!!Please contuniue!!
Joe


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Continuing prayers from my family. One of the guys said "do what you can, while you can" and you're a real inspiration the way you're doing that in spite of your own health issues. You'll never be sorry for hanging in there - you're giving her a great gift being there for her.
 
Today was a bad day!! she has stoped responding and the doc ays her brain is gone! So its just keep her comfortable now, they have stoped all meds and she is just getting morphine now, her heart rate with the mjorphine is at 130 breaths at 6 per min, and o2 is at 81, they say it will be 24 hours to a week but she is going for sure! Her body is tired and so is she. Had my sister inlaw and 2 old friends come up today and we talked to her and prayed toghter over her whiloe holding hands. Its tuff, but I am ok as saturday when I was there she wanted a hug and then a bigger one, I said I loved her and she said the same to me, then on sunday she weny on the ventlator. So i was to say I loved her before she went and she new it as well as her saying it to me. That means so much to me right now!!!!!!!!! I love you Margaret and will miss you!!
 
I so sorry Joe but thankful for you both getting to express your love to each other.
That is a priceless experience that will always stay with you.
 
hey did the Morphine drip on my mother as well. Speaking for past experience I can tell you that it's completely painless to the person, they simply go to sleep... no pain, no suffering. I'm so sorry Joe. If there's anything I or we can do please tell us. God bless you both.
 
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