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wellcraftv20step

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I really was not sure where to post this but here goes. Due to the economy mrs. Wellcraftv20step lost her job a while back and she is not having much luck finding employment at least at the salery she was used to. She has been offered many positions at a fraction of that. here's the rub, we have her dad living with us , he is 90 has a bad heart , Valve replacement 2 years ago,mesotheleoma and a growth on his lung that we all have decided to not pursue any tratment for because of his heart and age. He was also for a time in a coma for 2 months with double pnuemonia.. He has his own apt on the ground floor and cooks himself 3 squares a day, ( one tough old Polock i'd say) but does need alot of help with many things. Needless to say its been hell on the mrs . She sleeps with a baby monitor on her night table so she can hear every move and sound he makes i dont think she ever really sleeps! Now I convinced her just to stay home and be here for him which in turn will really take the stress off her . So now here is the other problem.Money worries!! My youngest of three daughters is getting married in aug. This kills all my plans of redoing my v so i have decided to just part her out. if anyone needs any parts just let me know
 
really sorry to hear all that..... Here's hoping things will turn around for you soon.
At least a lower stress level in the house will be a good thing.
 
Sorry to hear about your problems. I'm going thru a similar situation with my mother right now, so I understand very well. Money is tight all over in this economy. Wish there was something I could say or do to help. Just don't be a stranger to these forums. You're not the first boatless person here, and I'm sure you won't be the last.
 
whats that old saying, "if you want to make god laugh, just tell him your plans." i went through the same thing with my dad. i only worked about 10 - 15 hours a week and took care of him the rest of the time. after he passed, i realized how much that it meant to me to be able to take care of him like that. i know its rough on your wife , but one day she will miss being able to care for him.
as far as your daughter, take care of her needs, plenty of boats to get to later.
 
My Mother had advanced Alzheimer’s and was very difficult to deal with. She thought I was her husband. Mom would get mad at me for leaving her and ask how I could leave her in such a horrible place. She would say you just can’t treat people like this. Mom would do this every time I went to visit her making the trip to the home very difficult. Mom could not stay with me in my house as she would wander and try to make it back to her house, the house she lived in with her parents when she was a child. She was my Mom and I love her and still miss her to this day. I held her hand, stroked her head and told her I loved her as she passed away… I still feel guilty for sitting by her bed and not doing more to save her but know in my heart she is in a better place now.
My Mom and Dad had a full life and lived in to their eighties. They were great parents and I modeled my parenting skills after them. When I have a hard decision to make I ask myself what Dad would do…
So,,, you do what you have to and take care of the older ones while they are here.
 
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roffey said:
My Mother had advanced Alzheimer’s and was very difficult to deal with. She thought I was her husband. Mom would get mad at me for leaving her and ask how I could leave her in such a horrible place. She would say you just can’t treat people like this. Mom would do this every time I went to visit her making the trip to the home very difficult. Mom could not stay with me in my hpuse as she would wonder and try to make it back to her house, the house she lived in with her parents when she was a child. She was my Mom and I love her and still miss her to this day. I held her hand, stroked her head and told her I loved her as she passed away… I still feel guilty for sitting by her bed and not doing more to save her but know in my heart she is in a better place now.
My Mom and Dad had a full life and lived in to their eighties. They were great parents and I modeled my parenting skills after them. When I have a hard decision to make I ask myself what Dad would do…
So,,, you do what you have to and take care of the older ones while they are here.
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What a great reply
 
Having gone through this with one parent and living with another coming soon I think all of us really can feel your pain.
Enjoy the time with him, and never think that even those that appear to be gone mentally do not have an appreciative Spirit inside.
Do what you have to do to ease your wife's anxiety and go fishing with a friend or on a head boat type thing.
Good luck to you and a prayer said for you Father In Law.
 
My dad caught Alzheimers when he was 82. He lasted till he was 92 and it finally killed him. It's a horrible sickness because it slowly destroys the person you loved and leaves only the shell. People wondered why I didn't cry at my fathers funeral. My only reply was that my father (his personality) died 10 years earlier. If I could offer just one bit of advice to todays youth it would be to treasure all the time you have left with your parents. It goes by so quickly, and when they go there is this hole inside of you that will never be full again. Savor the moments.
 
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My dad caught Alzheimers when he was 82. He lasted till he was 92 and it finally killed him. It's a horrible sickness because it slowly destroys the person you loved and leaves only the shell. People wondered why I didn't cry at my fathers funeral. My only reply was that my father (his personality) died 10 years earlier. If I could offer just one bit of advice to todays youth it would be to treasure all the time you have left with your parents. It goes by so quickly, and when they go there is this hole inside of you that will never be full again. Savor the moments.
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Exactly what I went through. I have my Father’s name, I look and sounded just like him. To this day people still think they are talking to my father. My Mom thought I was Dad and was not happy with me. When she passed away I was happy for her in a way. She was Ok and was with Dad. Like you I did not cry, but still miss my Mom and Dad.
 
Through starting this thread i have learned many things about some of you that i may not have otherwise known! I just feel that a man who has been strong and independent his entire life should remain proud, and never actually have to ask for help when he has family so close by. if i dont do this for him how can i possibly have the rite to expect anyone to ever want to do it for me when my time comes. i was not blessed with any sons but i have three great son inlaws. they know whats going on and i hope they learn from this. What Willy said is rite on . Iwould not have been comfortable starting this thread on any other site i frequent. . oh and i already see the stress level drop in the mrs which in turn makes my life easier too. she just has dad and her crazy husband to worry about now.
 
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